“Whoopie, We Saved a Marriage!” and Other Flawed Perspectives

HRC President Patty Howell

By Patty Howell, Ed.M., A.G.C. President, Healthy Relationships California I’m not saying saving a marriage isn’t important, because it is. And it’s especially important if it’s your marriage that a Relationship Education course helped save. This is a big deal, really; one that ripples throughout all parts of your life, and impacts you, your spouse, your kids, their achievement in school, the health of everyone in the family, your effectiveness at work, your family’s income, [...] Read more »

What Do You Have to Say About This?


“With divorces lingering at nearly 50%, and each divorce generating a social services burden conservatively estimated at $30,000 per divorce, marital outcomes are critical to the overall stability of American society. Marital outcomes impact the couple, their children, their community, and the culture we live in,” ssays David G. Schramm in his research of 2006 (Journal of Family and Economic Issues, Vol. 27(1) 133-146). The social services impact of divorce includes increased government expenditures for program such [...] Read more »

What Do You Think About Our New Electronic Resource?


We are excited about launching our new, bi-monthly e-newsletter. We plan to provide you with helpful articles, share inspirational testimonies, inform you with news on relationship-related matters, and give you ways to get involved with our mission.   We want to hear from you: what information would you find most helpful and interesting through this e-newsletter? Read more »

What Do You Have to Say About This?


According toThe State of California’s Unions: Marriage and Divorce in the Golden State report (a survey conducted by HRC), more than 80% of Californians believe that “divorce is a serious national problem in the United States.” WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!  In your opinion, what should be done about this “serious national problem?” Read more »

5 Tips to Improve the Quality of Your Relationship

From lisakifttherapy.com

Whether you’re in a new dating relationship, engaged or married for years, one of the fundamental elements of a solid relationship foundation is communication. Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT, fellow healthy marriage supporter released signs of a great relationship The following tips can only help to improve communication and thus the quality of your relationship. You tell each other when something is bothering you. You don’t criticize each other. You’re not defensive with each other. If you have a misunderstanding you try [...] Read more »

Father’s Day Highlights Importance of the Marital Relationship in Dad’s Involvement with His Kids


“The best predictor of father presence is marital status,” says a report from the Institute for American Values, explaining that when a father’s romantic relationship with his children’s mother ends, this often ends his involvement with the children as well. While having a relationship with both parents brings balance to children’s physical and emotional welfare, data from more than 100 studies point to the extremely important role fathers play in the lives of their children. In [...] Read more »

Arnold and Maria Should Continue as Models for the Power of Conflict Resolution


The news that former California GovernorArnold Schwarzenegger and his well-known wife, Maria Shriver, have separated leaves Californians with yet another high profile marriage in trouble. “This separation is just like many others,” says Dennis Stoica, President of California Healthy Marriages Coalition (CHMC). “Their 25-year marriage with four children has been through many changes and stress, from the 8 years of demanding California politics to the recent deaths of close family members and now Arnold’s career transition. There are many things putting a [...] Read more »

The Royals, William and Kate, May Be More Like You Than You Think

Kate and William

 Prince William and Catherine Middleton will walk down the aisle this weekend much more lavishly than most couples, along with extraordinary media attention, but they have much in common with every couple:  the need to learn how to succeed in the relationship.  Royal divorces can shake up kingdoms, but divorce is something every newlywed wants to avoid. Learning how to be a successful partner is key and it always entails learning effective communication skills, says Patty Howell, Vice President of [...] Read more »