Can you believe it? We are midway through the holiday season already! While Thanksgiving is a distant memory, our expanded waist lines remind us of that festive feast. The Black Friday to Cyber Monday, shop-til-you-drop weekend extracted the extra cash out of our bank accounts. Now, you are trying to juggle the kids’ holiday performances, work Christmas parties, and taking the family to see Santa, causing panic attacks as the 12 days before Christmas are filling every square on your Calendar.
Yes, the holiday season takes a toll on your weight, wallet and time. If you’re not careful, it can make a negative impact on your relationships too.
The holiday season used to be a time for personal reflection and introspection. Whether or not a person celebrates the religious aspects of Christmas, Hanukkah, or Kwanzaa, take some time, no, make the time to reflect upon who and what is most important in your life.
Here are some ways to bring balance to your relationship during the holidays:
- Take Time for Just the Two of You. With all the hustle and bustle of this holiday season, many couples are overwhelmed, stressed, and pulled in every direction. It’s easy to forget the high-priority of keeping balance in your relationship during the most demanding time of year. A couple at any stage and any age needs quality time together. Try to make a date for just the two of you.
- Have a Holiday Relationship Meeting. The holidays are packed with stress: money for presents, demands of extended family, and expectations for the “best holiday ever.” Take some time with your mate each week to discuss how things are going in your relationship, discuss any stress points, and make sure you share what you appreciate about each other. Having weekly relationship meetings during the holidays can ensure the season is “merry and bright.”
- Express Thanks to Your Partner Regularly. Everyday or so, make it a habit to say a special thank you to your special someone for the special things they do. No matter how small it may seem, appreciation is something we all need. Make your thank you meaningful, specific, and special!
- Surprise Your Partner! Who doesn’t love surprises? Keep it simple and inexpensive: a single rose, an unexpected invitation to dinner, special messages on post-it notes all over the bathroom mirror, or an endearing Facebook post on their Wall. Adults love the surprises of the giving season as much as the kids do. Get creative!
- Have Alone Time. We all need to recharge our emotional, physical and mental batteries. Spending time alone will refresh your outlook, boost your energy, and keep you from acting like the Grinch’s first cousin. This may seem like an impossible task, but it is doable. Start with small steps: take a bath instead of a shower, wake up early for a brisk walk, or turn off the TV at night and curl up with a good book. Whatever you have to do, whatever it takes…make time for YOU!
Don’t let the holiday season’s overwhelming to-do lists, the overflowing calendar and the nearly empty bank account cause your relationship to go cold. By taking the time and making the effort, the holidays will be a season of giving what your relationship needs to grow.
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